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Oct 29·edited Oct 29Liked by Matthew Long, Kim Gronsman Lee, MD

Interesting. As someone who grew up in a very anxious household, I 've fought my "need" for certainty for my entire life. To that end, I've read "The Sin of Certainty," by Pete Enns, as well as books by people in the mental health field. It helps to be reminded to live in that space. We have companions (and God) who walk alongside us. For me, that is mainly writers.

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Thank you, Linda! We’re all here to remind each other.

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Oct 29Liked by Kim Gronsman Lee, MD, Matthew Long

Kim, your tender insights get me thinking about why infancy was my hardest passage as a mother. I’m not comfortable with babies and had only one. There are many reasons I won’t get into here. The one you brought to mind is the vulnerability of babies as a portal to our own most vulnerable places.

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Thank you, Rona. Your comment reminds me that a paper called “Ghosts in the Nursery” from the 1970s explores that idea further. I need to revisit that.

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Oct 29Liked by Matthew Long, Kim Gronsman Lee, MD

This was so beautiful, Kim. Thank you for sharing.

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Thank you, Kyleigh, for reading and for saying so!

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(And I apologize for the spell-check misspelling of your name there! 🤦🏼‍♀️)

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Oct 29Liked by Kim Gronsman Lee, MD, Matthew Long

Kim’s insight into the NICU experience, particularly her observation that “babies come with other people attached,” beautifully captures the interconnectedness of humanity. This essay thoughtfully bridges the clinical world and personal reflections, making it very moving. Her eloquence and empathy draw readers into the complexities of vulnerability, connection, and shared stories.

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Thank you, Jon, for reading!

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Oct 30Liked by Kim Gronsman Lee, MD, Matthew Long

Thank you, Kim, for sharing your words with us. I was moved to tears by their eloquence, power, and truth. Thank you. 🙏🏼

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Katrina, thank you so much for reading and for your kindness!

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